Dates are a great way intending
couples gets to meet, know each other a little more, interact and understand
individual differences and intentions etc.
couples gets to meet, know each other a little more, interact and understand
individual differences and intentions etc.
Depending on the stage and progress of
a relationship, a date could be romantic, less formal or simply a sit and talk
outing.
a relationship, a date could be romantic, less formal or simply a sit and talk
outing.
When on a date, every woman should
ensure that they avoid the following six things if they want to continue with
the relationship.
ensure that they avoid the following six things if they want to continue with
the relationship.
Dates are usually more formal the
first time because couples are yet to know each other well enough, therefore
they avoid being to nosy and deep.
first time because couples are yet to know each other well enough, therefore
they avoid being to nosy and deep.
As a lady going on a first date, below
are six things you should avoid doing to avoid ruining the experience:
are six things you should avoid doing to avoid ruining the experience:
Don’t Talk About
Marriage
Marriage
Do not begin to bore your date with
your plans to get married within the next few years. You will appear very
desperate and end up chasing him away. You have barely gotten to know him and
you are already hinting on marriage, that is a big turn off for guys. It also
gives the notion that you are not genuinely interested in him, all you just
want is someone to marry you.
your plans to get married within the next few years. You will appear very
desperate and end up chasing him away. You have barely gotten to know him and
you are already hinting on marriage, that is a big turn off for guys. It also
gives the notion that you are not genuinely interested in him, all you just
want is someone to marry you.
Never Invite Your
Friends
Friends
This should go without saying, do not
for any reason bring guest on your first date, this is one to one and heart to
heart time. Apart from the gesture being unacceptable and unethical, your date
may feel shy and uncomfortable talking and baring his heart in presence of your
friends. If you are not sure of your safety and feel the need to bring someone
along, pick a friend, choose a public place and let your friend mix with the
crowd while keeping an eye on you.
for any reason bring guest on your first date, this is one to one and heart to
heart time. Apart from the gesture being unacceptable and unethical, your date
may feel shy and uncomfortable talking and baring his heart in presence of your
friends. If you are not sure of your safety and feel the need to bring someone
along, pick a friend, choose a public place and let your friend mix with the
crowd while keeping an eye on you.
Don’t Discuss Sex
Except the topic comes up naturally in
the course of your conversations, avoid discussing about sex and your sex life.
It’s a first date and you don’t want to appear promiscuous, Hot and desperate.
Even if the topic does come up, that is not the time to begin to reveal you bed
skills and wild sexual escapades, touch the surface and leave the topic, that
way you leave a lot to the imagination.
the course of your conversations, avoid discussing about sex and your sex life.
It’s a first date and you don’t want to appear promiscuous, Hot and desperate.
Even if the topic does come up, that is not the time to begin to reveal you bed
skills and wild sexual escapades, touch the surface and leave the topic, that
way you leave a lot to the imagination.
Avoid Talking About
Your Exes
Your Exes
By all means, avoid talking about your
previous relationships and dates. You are there to get to know each other and
enjoy the company of each other not a body count revelation. If they ask, you
can tell them but keep it shallow and short. Do not compare the date with other
ones you have had in the past and avoid statements that will suggest so. Taking
about your ex(es) will only make him think you are yet to get over your ex and
that could make him avoid you the next time.
previous relationships and dates. You are there to get to know each other and
enjoy the company of each other not a body count revelation. If they ask, you
can tell them but keep it shallow and short. Do not compare the date with other
ones you have had in the past and avoid statements that will suggest so. Taking
about your ex(es) will only make him think you are yet to get over your ex and
that could make him avoid you the next time.
Don’t Brag About
Your Career
Your Career
When a woman brags a lot about her
achievement, the man might feel like the woman is re-fighting the gender wars.
Avoid making it a feminist competition event; you came to see if you could bond
with a possible partner, not to throw your accomplishments in his face. He
could feel a deep sense of competition or feminine pride and take off. Talk
about yourself, your interests and perspectives to life and leave all other
things for next time.
achievement, the man might feel like the woman is re-fighting the gender wars.
Avoid making it a feminist competition event; you came to see if you could bond
with a possible partner, not to throw your accomplishments in his face. He
could feel a deep sense of competition or feminine pride and take off. Talk
about yourself, your interests and perspectives to life and leave all other
things for next time.
Going Too Deep
If you reveal your entire life story
from childhood until now, you will bore your date to death. Your date would
think that if you are ready to share everything upfront, you do that with
everyone you meet. Avoid telling it all and being too inquisitive. Don’t be a
detective, remember you are there to have fun while getting to know the much
you can about them. Do not heap all your family problems and history on the
date, they may begin to see you as a job instead of a possible partner. Keep it
simple and general.
from childhood until now, you will bore your date to death. Your date would
think that if you are ready to share everything upfront, you do that with
everyone you meet. Avoid telling it all and being too inquisitive. Don’t be a
detective, remember you are there to have fun while getting to know the much
you can about them. Do not heap all your family problems and history on the
date, they may begin to see you as a job instead of a possible partner. Keep it
simple and general.
